Hormones and Harmony; Guide to Being an Awesome Teenage Girl (2)
CHAPTER 2: CRUSHES
The butterflies in your stomach? The way your heart jumps when he stares at you? The way you adjust that skirt or shift up that blouse in hopes he notices? Yes girl, we know it's a crush.
Having a crush is a wonderful feeling. I know for a fact because it makes you feel alive, more than ever before. It's an electrifying feeling that rushes from the top of your head to the sole of your feet. It's amazing.
Like I said in the previous chapter, crushes are normal. Every girl gets one. The thing about crushes though, they are mostly superficial. Let's face it, the reason you're crushing on that boy is because he's good looking. His face is so smooth, his laugh is so adorable, his jokes are funny, he's popular, his parents are rich, he's built like a rock, his fashion sense is on point, he's sexy.
Now look through all that again, little miss. There are other guys around but the reason why you like this particular guy is because he's cute and he has dimples. What if you wake up one day and this guy's face is in a cast and when he recovers, those cute dimples are gone? Let's be real here and forget those sappy love stories we watch on TV, my dear, you'd lose interest in this guy as soon as what attracts you to him is gone.
This is why crushes are so dangerous. Crushes are very shallow. If you act on your crush immediately, chances are, you'd regret it for the rest of your life. Television, romantic novels and shows don't teach you that. In fact, the reason why crushes are so shallow and superficial these days is because of what we see on the media. Life is far more crueler than what is portrayed on the media.
I know this is not what you wanted to see but I'm going to give you straight. DO NOT EVER BUILD A RELATIONSHIP ON A FLIMSY CRUSH. Trust me ladies, you'll regret it.
Let me walk you through the process.
You see a cute guy, probably in school. The moment you start to crush on him, everything changes. You dress cuter, you smile more, you talk more, you become proactive and you do everything to make him notice you. You're lucky, he does. You two start talking and you become friends. Two weeks later, he asks you out. You're excited, over the moon. You start dating and it goes well the first couple of weeks. Then it starts. You discover your cute boyfriend isn't perfect. What a shock! You start to argue and in a few days, you guys have broken up. Life hits you in the face and it hurts, a lot. Funny enough, you meet the next cute guy and the circle repeats.
Does this sound like something you want for yourself? Be honest. No girl wants her heart crushed over and over.
If you want a real relationship, first thing to do is to completely delete everything you read and watched about romance on TV and on the internet.
Crushes are good but they're not meant to be acted on. For now, all you need to do is focus on developing yourself and making sure you're ready for a relationship. Build your self respect, your emotional intelligence, your future and your goals. When all of that is in place, you're ready for a relationship.
If there's something I left out in this chapter, let me know in the comments so I can make a part two. I really hoped you enjoyed this chapter and you'd take my advice to heart. See you ladies in the next chapter.
The butterflies in your stomach? The way your heart jumps when he stares at you? The way you adjust that skirt or shift up that blouse in hopes he notices? Yes girl, we know it's a crush.
Having a crush is a wonderful feeling. I know for a fact because it makes you feel alive, more than ever before. It's an electrifying feeling that rushes from the top of your head to the sole of your feet. It's amazing.
Like I said in the previous chapter, crushes are normal. Every girl gets one. The thing about crushes though, they are mostly superficial. Let's face it, the reason you're crushing on that boy is because he's good looking. His face is so smooth, his laugh is so adorable, his jokes are funny, he's popular, his parents are rich, he's built like a rock, his fashion sense is on point, he's sexy.
Now look through all that again, little miss. There are other guys around but the reason why you like this particular guy is because he's cute and he has dimples. What if you wake up one day and this guy's face is in a cast and when he recovers, those cute dimples are gone? Let's be real here and forget those sappy love stories we watch on TV, my dear, you'd lose interest in this guy as soon as what attracts you to him is gone.
This is why crushes are so dangerous. Crushes are very shallow. If you act on your crush immediately, chances are, you'd regret it for the rest of your life. Television, romantic novels and shows don't teach you that. In fact, the reason why crushes are so shallow and superficial these days is because of what we see on the media. Life is far more crueler than what is portrayed on the media.
I know this is not what you wanted to see but I'm going to give you straight. DO NOT EVER BUILD A RELATIONSHIP ON A FLIMSY CRUSH. Trust me ladies, you'll regret it.
Let me walk you through the process.
You see a cute guy, probably in school. The moment you start to crush on him, everything changes. You dress cuter, you smile more, you talk more, you become proactive and you do everything to make him notice you. You're lucky, he does. You two start talking and you become friends. Two weeks later, he asks you out. You're excited, over the moon. You start dating and it goes well the first couple of weeks. Then it starts. You discover your cute boyfriend isn't perfect. What a shock! You start to argue and in a few days, you guys have broken up. Life hits you in the face and it hurts, a lot. Funny enough, you meet the next cute guy and the circle repeats.
Does this sound like something you want for yourself? Be honest. No girl wants her heart crushed over and over.
If you want a real relationship, first thing to do is to completely delete everything you read and watched about romance on TV and on the internet.
Crushes are good but they're not meant to be acted on. For now, all you need to do is focus on developing yourself and making sure you're ready for a relationship. Build your self respect, your emotional intelligence, your future and your goals. When all of that is in place, you're ready for a relationship.
If there's something I left out in this chapter, let me know in the comments so I can make a part two. I really hoped you enjoyed this chapter and you'd take my advice to heart. See you ladies in the next chapter.
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